She starts conversation!

[FNB]

Under Approach Anxiety:
http://www.attractology.com/outergame/approach_anxiety.php

"Waiting around for a women to approach you is like waiting to win the lottery. It could happen but it’s very unlikely."

I have looked at this and wondered if this is completely true! Is it really so unlikely that girls would approach that it could be compared to win the lottery? I have seen this in my own country. When I go out girls come to talk to me. So I thought this is only here and that it's not so common. I was recently in England and Scotland for one week. During this stay girls that I never had met before come talking to me here as well. It happens more during the day but also at nightclubs. I have seen a pattern in that the girl that is interested in me come with her friend. It's much more unlikely that she come alone but that has happened as well but then only during the day. It's not so often but sometimes they buy shots so that we can drink together. Thats nice! Free drinks. :) As you are the experts here I would really like to know whats going on here and if it's really so unlikely that it could be compared to winning the lottery? This puzzles me. This is very weird behavior.

[dthomas]

"Waiting around for a women to approach you is like waiting to win the lottery. It could happen but it’s very unlikely."

let's take a look at this. The key word in the statement above is 'waiting.' Waiting is naturally a reactive behavior. It is the act of doing nothing but expecting things to change. And if you do this when it comes to meeting women, you will significantly reduce your chances of success with women. And it is exactly like playing the lottery to get rich. Rather than taking a proactive step to make money, a person who just plays the lottery is 'waiting' and in turn will practically diminish his chances of making any money. The key is being proactive. If you aren't approaching women, you are expecting them to approach you and unless your a model, professional athlete or superstar, it doesn't happen too often. Let's not forget, western culture still operates on a male -court -female system where guys are expected to court girls and not the other way around. This is especially true with extraordinarily beautiful women-because so many men have always approached them, they have never needed to approach guys. And even if some women wanted to approach you, most of the time,. they won't. Women get approach anxiety too and the same hypotheticals that run through an average guys head, run through hers as well.

BUT.yes.sometimes....occasionally women will approach you. However, a good majority of the time it is because you already have established yourself around the venue as 'that guy' who knows everyone. When your social value is through the roof, you are more likely to get women who want to approach you. But the catch 22 is -to get high social value you need to...wait for it....wait for it...APPROACH!. When you think about this game, it is imperative to think proactive. You have to be in the moment taking the steps rather than 'waiting' for things to happen.

[FNB]

I have always approached the ones that I want to talk to so no problems with that. The only thing that I thought was a little bit odd here was that if a women approaches you it's as unlikely as to win the lottery! This because girls have always approached me. Some of them have also been very good looking. I agree with you that to only be waiting for the ladies to approach you is minimizing the amount of girls you meet per week. So I would say don't only be waiting for them to approach you but should go up and meet them as well. They won't bite! Unless you're really lucky. :) Girls come to you but if you only wait for them you won't have as much fun as you would have by also approaching them.