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What is Attractology all about?
What is Attractology all about?
Intro: I’ve been studying attraction for a few years now. It may seem minuscule to many other experts or practitioners, but I must argue that I have spent a vast majority of my last three years developing and understanding this game to the point of obsession.
What is this attraction game all about?
Many people, male and female, have an unwarranted skepticism towards this game of men learning to attract women. They hear the word seduction and pick up artist and they automatically think manipulations, liars, and people who are being untrue to themselves. “why don’t you just be yourself?” a women once asked me a few years ago. “why do you have to do all these ‘things’ to get women?” And these are very good questions that should be addressed.
If you are a bad person, with ultimately bad intentions, there is no ’thing’ that will make women (or men) see you as “good” or attractive for that matter. And the reason for this is simple. Women are very, very socially intelligent. And they have to be this way especially when it comes to guys. In our tribal, more primitive ages, their survival depended on finding a good guy. If she hooked up with a guy, there was a significant chance she would get pregnant. And if she got pregnant she would need the man to provide for her and child. This is why she has to be choosy when finding a man. If she had sex with a guy who wasn’t planning on sticking around and supporting her and her child, she could die. Nowadays, women are still equipped with that sixth sense about guys and seeing that they have had it for thousands of years, I don’t see it changing anytime soon. Learning Attractology™ is not about bypassing that sixth sense. It is rekindling and refining the attractive qualities we already possess and developing those attractive qualities we do not possess. I speak for a lot of guys when I say that most men really haven’t been taught how to properly meet and attract women. Maybe your mom taught you to be polite, cordial, respectful, and to do nice things often for women. But really she was teaching you to be a good husband, not an attractive man. She is teaching the qualities that make women stick around once you have already attracted them. Men therefore must learn ways to attract women or they will forever be alone and lonely. Attractology™ is about putting that control and choice back into the mans hands. Just like Brad Pitt or Collin Farrell have an endless selection of women they can choose from, men too deserve and can possess that power. And why shouldn’t they? Women have been studying this game since day one. They just haven’t realized it.
Women have grown up in a completely different world than men. Ever since they picked up their first Cosmo magazine, they have been groomed to know every tip to keeping a man on his toes or “5 easy steps to finding the man of your dreams.” Don’t believe me, go look at any of the female magazines (Cosmo, Vogue, Glamour, etc). There is a reason they are still in business. Beautiful women know their options. Ever since they were around 16, every guy they have met has offered himself to her in some form or another. Whether it’s a harmless compliment like “you’re beautiful” or a cheesy pick up line like “hey baby,” they know what’s going on and they come to learn that they can be choosy in the guy department. Not only can they be picky, they can (and do) exercise their power over men. They know how to dress seductively and flirt slightly just enough to drive men into a state of primitive slobbery. They know how to get a guy to buy them a drink. And they also know how to politely dismiss him after he has done so. The list goes on. It’s all in a days play. No harm, no foul.
The word seduction is often associated manipulation and coercing women into bed. Some see it as lying, cheating and doing whatever it takes to get her from the bar to the bedroom. Attractology does neither support nor condone this shrewd definition but rather redefines seduction in a much more mutual sense. If you ever take a dancing class like tango or salsa, you will learn that there is always a ‘lead’ and a ‘follow.’ You will also come to learn that if you do not lead and you have two follows, the dance will simply fall apart. I learned this hard way while attempting to learn salsa but that is besides the point. Seduction parallels dance. In dating, relationships, attraction and sex, there is always a lead and always a follow. Seduction requires two people. One who is leading and the other who is following. Without the lead, there is nothing to follow and vice versa. They work in tandem. The interesting thing is, is that most women want to be seduced. They just want to led and seduced by the right guy. So whether a person is using a manipulative, dishonest method or an honest one depends on the person not the actual seduction process.
“Seduction alone is neither manipulative nor dishonest. A person on the other hand, can be all of the above.”
Now, You are your own person with your own moral code. We cannot shape your ethics, we can only show you their consequences. Everything we teach can be used in an honest, non-manipulative way.
If it is not manipulative, what are you teaching?
We are teaching a lot of things. We are teaching the structure of how attraction really works. In a way we are basically reformatting beliefs about women and relationships. Most of what men (and some women) think they know about attraction is simply wrong. We try to bring in the social sciences as well as natural sciences to illustrate a more realistic structure of attraction in men and women. And this paves the way for everything else. We teach men to become internally stronger with tools and techniques to dismantle insecurity, uncertainty, and social anxiety. This leads way to building a stronger, confident, self identity that is attractive to all types of women. Of course part of gaining confidence is getting success first. Along with everything else, we teach the tools, tips and tactics for first getting success with women. Yes some of them may be stock, canned lines, but really their importance is to be the vehicle that buys a person time to display his true colors. And we bank heavily on the fact that most guys are good guys who have good intentions and they have a lot to offer women.
Can anyone learn this?
This is an excellent question and the answer is NO. Are you surprised? You should be because nearly every single product pushing guru will tell you “It’s easy. Every single person on the Earth can pick this up with our new improved technology. BUY NOW. BUY NOW!!!” Realistically, (and this is coming from experience) about 90-95% of the population can learn this stuff and about 5-10% cannot. After teaching and seeing the results, you come to realize that everyone can gain something, and almost every single person can get the girl of his dreams. But there are always those anomalies that are just too socially distant and awkward to reach. However, let this be known, that with enough willpower, there is no limit on what the human being is capable of.
Intro: I’ve been studying attraction for a few years now. It may seem minuscule to many other experts or practitioners, but I must argue that I have spent a vast majority of my last three years developing and understanding this game to the point of obsession.
What is this attraction game all about?
Many people, male and female, have an unwarranted skepticism towards this game of men learning to attract women. They hear the word seduction and pick up artist and they automatically think manipulations, liars, and people who are being untrue to themselves. “why don’t you just be yourself?” a women once asked me a few years ago. “why do you have to do all these ‘things’ to get women?” And these are very good questions that should be addressed.
If you are a bad person, with ultimately bad intentions, there is no ’thing’ that will make women (or men) see you as “good” or attractive for that matter. And the reason for this is simple. Women are very, very socially intelligent. And they have to be this way especially when it comes to guys. In our tribal, more primitive ages, their survival depended on finding a good guy. If she hooked up with a guy, there was a significant chance she would get pregnant. And if she got pregnant she would need the man to provide for her and child. This is why she has to be choosy when finding a man. If she had sex with a guy who wasn’t planning on sticking around and supporting her and her child, she could die. Nowadays, women are still equipped with that sixth sense about guys and seeing that they have had it for thousands of years, I don’t see it changing anytime soon. Learning Attractology™ is not about bypassing that sixth sense. It is rekindling and refining the attractive qualities we already possess and developing those attractive qualities we do not possess. I speak for a lot of guys when I say that most men really haven’t been taught how to properly meet and attract women. Maybe your mom taught you to be polite, cordial, respectful, and to do nice things often for women. But really she was teaching you to be a good husband, not an attractive man. She is teaching the qualities that make women stick around once you have already attracted them. Men therefore must learn ways to attract women or they will forever be alone and lonely. Attractology™ is about putting that control and choice back into the mans hands. Just like Brad Pitt or Collin Farrell have an endless selection of women they can choose from, men too deserve and can possess that power. And why shouldn’t they? Women have been studying this game since day one. They just haven’t realized it.
Women have grown up in a completely different world than men. Ever since they picked up their first Cosmo magazine, they have been groomed to know every tip to keeping a man on his toes or “5 easy steps to finding the man of your dreams.” Don’t believe me, go look at any of the female magazines (Cosmo, Vogue, Glamour, etc). There is a reason they are still in business. Beautiful women know their options. Ever since they were around 16, every guy they have met has offered himself to her in some form or another. Whether it’s a harmless compliment like “you’re beautiful” or a cheesy pick up line like “hey baby,” they know what’s going on and they come to learn that they can be choosy in the guy department. Not only can they be picky, they can (and do) exercise their power over men. They know how to dress seductively and flirt slightly just enough to drive men into a state of primitive slobbery. They know how to get a guy to buy them a drink. And they also know how to politely dismiss him after he has done so. The list goes on. It’s all in a days play. No harm, no foul.
The word seduction is often associated manipulation and coercing women into bed. Some see it as lying, cheating and doing whatever it takes to get her from the bar to the bedroom. Attractology does neither support nor condone this shrewd definition but rather redefines seduction in a much more mutual sense. If you ever take a dancing class like tango or salsa, you will learn that there is always a ‘lead’ and a ‘follow.’ You will also come to learn that if you do not lead and you have two follows, the dance will simply fall apart. I learned this hard way while attempting to learn salsa but that is besides the point. Seduction parallels dance. In dating, relationships, attraction and sex, there is always a lead and always a follow. Seduction requires two people. One who is leading and the other who is following. Without the lead, there is nothing to follow and vice versa. They work in tandem. The interesting thing is, is that most women want to be seduced. They just want to led and seduced by the right guy. So whether a person is using a manipulative, dishonest method or an honest one depends on the person not the actual seduction process.
“Seduction alone is neither manipulative nor dishonest. A person on the other hand, can be all of the above.”
Now, You are your own person with your own moral code. We cannot shape your ethics, we can only show you their consequences. Everything we teach can be used in an honest, non-manipulative way.
If it is not manipulative, what are you teaching?
We are teaching a lot of things. We are teaching the structure of how attraction really works. In a way we are basically reformatting beliefs about women and relationships. Most of what men (and some women) think they know about attraction is simply wrong. We try to bring in the social sciences as well as natural sciences to illustrate a more realistic structure of attraction in men and women. And this paves the way for everything else. We teach men to become internally stronger with tools and techniques to dismantle insecurity, uncertainty, and social anxiety. This leads way to building a stronger, confident, self identity that is attractive to all types of women. Of course part of gaining confidence is getting success first. Along with everything else, we teach the tools, tips and tactics for first getting success with women. Yes some of them may be stock, canned lines, but really their importance is to be the vehicle that buys a person time to display his true colors. And we bank heavily on the fact that most guys are good guys who have good intentions and they have a lot to offer women.
Can anyone learn this?
This is an excellent question and the answer is NO. Are you surprised? You should be because nearly every single product pushing guru will tell you “It’s easy. Every single person on the Earth can pick this up with our new improved technology. BUY NOW. BUY NOW!!!” Realistically, (and this is coming from experience) about 90-95% of the population can learn this stuff and about 5-10% cannot. After teaching and seeing the results, you come to realize that everyone can gain something, and almost every single person can get the girl of his dreams. But there are always those anomalies that are just too socially distant and awkward to reach. However, let this be known, that with enough willpower, there is no limit on what the human being is capable of.
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