Attraction

[Brett]

I see that we have a lot of gimmics or routines to build attraction. does anyone have any push pull material that they can share? What about creating patterns to creat attraction?

[dthomas]

It depends on how you define push- pull. And rather than focus on the material of push pull, you should always be more centered around WHEN to PUSH and WHEN to PULL. That being said, why not break it down. In any interaction with a women that you engage in, you are going to be leading. This means that you are going to take initiative. Generally when we start a conversation, we will be pulling. The nature of proactive attraction building is pulling her in and getting her wanting you. Once she starts giving you Indicators that she is the least bit attracted to you, then you start pushing her off you. (ex. she touches you-- "wow hands off the Merchandise!") From then on you'll have playful little push pull battles that look more like flirting than anything else. It happens very fast and often takes some calibration to get really good at. You can also pair IOIs with IODs which gives her mixed signals and triggers her emotional circuitry. "you're cute in a dorky way!" "You little shit, ...I love you!" Personally, I love calling girls "nerds" dorks" or "goofballs." They are the insults that never seem to insult. And I'm sure you can probably come up with some yourself. But yes, these mixed signal, push-pull statements are great for building attraction and also great for separating yourself from other supplicating guys.

In terms of patterns, as of right now, the Attractology model doesn't use patterns or NLP unless they are used to DHV ( synesthesia, Eye Cues). I started out in this game with Speed Seduction, and NLP. When I started spewing off these scripts to women, it didn't feel "ME" at all. And the more I used them, the less success I had with women. You've got to understand that patterns put more emphasis on verbal language than body language and body represents nearly 90 % of communication. And putting women in a waking hypnotic state where she wants to have sex with you, it simply has not worked for me. This doesn't mean it isn't possible. I'm sure Derren Brown would be amazing at this. But for the average guy, you are better off NOT using patterns to build attraction.

[Brett]

You puts some insite on push pull for me. That was very well written.

FOr the patterns, I really didn't mean anything by NLP or in that nature. reason behind that was I had EL TOPO come and speak for two layer here in houston. He had a method that changed the attration, comfort and susduction model that Mystery had built. It weave them all together. He laid out by DHV/ Grounding, check-ins, attraction/comfort w/ (push-pull or cold readings, or both) then qualify) It was intresting to see this. He does using things about him self to relate to his targets. He repeats this over till they hook for a SNL.
I just wanted to see if anyone else runs patterns similiar to this. Well it not actully a pattern as defined in NLP, but its similiar. Just tring to get idea to keep my mind open.

[Gabe, aka Prof.]

One of my favorites for anytime during a conversation when she does something small I disagree with is... "That's it, we're getting a divorce... and I'm keeping the dog". This is a playful 'push' that also creates a fun inside joke about you being married and divorced. If she responds with something funny I will usually say "I'll talk it over with my lawyer".

Another way to 'push' her and show you are non needy is Give her the gift of missing you.

For example after the divorce banter when you two have joked about being married and getting a divorce and if you know you can leave and re-approach her in a little while, turn to her and say "See you in court" (playfully and with a smile) and walk away. Of course, re-approach her sooner than later but you will find when you come back she will have hooked even more because she realized you could leave at any time.

* If is important to leave when the interaction is at a high and not when it hits a low. If you leave a woman at a high point you can go back and re-approach any time with good success.

[Intrigue]

here's one of my favorite push/pulls.

"wow you have the most beautiful smile i've seen all night"
....girls responds with a thank you etc...
"actually," count on your fingers, " there were five other girls i saw with really gorgeous smiles and out of them you're probably number four."
....girl will respond with something like "but i want to be number one!" and pout.
"well okay, i'll promote to number three just for being feisty."

enjoy!